Two Favorite Questions

When we turned 50, death was undoubtedly closer than birth. Any mathematician can multiply by two. And I'm not betting on living to my hundredth birthday. Even closer -- closer than death -- is the date when the world will stop seeing us. We will still walk the Earth,...

The Second Arrow

When I dream I can fly, I awake buoyant, fresh from swimming in the air. Waking from nightmares is gruesome. My nightmares are either chase scenarios, where I am hunted, or failure scenarios, where I am ill-prepared, incompetent, or unethical. From those nightmares, I...

Listening As Meditation

John Cremer taught me about listening last week. I'd already learned about Active Listening. John raised the stakes. During his session on improvisation, he described the keys to improvisation on stage, in business, and in life. The first key was listening. (For the...

SMARTY Goal Setting for Wingnuts (2020 edition)

Here's an annual message in a bottle: it's time to set goals for next year! I'm not the goal-setting type. I prefer to wing it. That's my strength. When it comes to setting goals, I'm a wingnut. Goals seem too limiting. Or too ambitious. Or both. Or neither. In any...

Turning 75 Next Year

It's hard to believe that I'm turning 75 years old. Especially since I was born in 1960. But I've decided to turn 75, rather than 60, next year. What strange new eccentricity is this? I'm motivated because: People reach their best at 75: wiser, calmer, more present....

Poems For Dogs, Part 1

What We Are Doing Now You were over there. I was over there. Now we are over here. You can do things I can't do. I can do things you can't do. Together, we can do anything.   Dog. Eat. Dog. Soon after waking, Foodlady fills the dish. We eat. Long into the day,...


Recommended Reading

“The Thing All Women Do That You Don’t Know About,” Huffington Post by Gretchen Kelly — for men who stare at women they don’t know

That’s What She Said: What Men Need to Know (and Women Need to Tell Them) About Working Together by Joanne Lipman — for anyone who wants to better understand gender at work

Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit — for men who want to find out if (when) they are buffoons

Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates — for anyone who wants to better understand racial privilege

Are YOU Ready to Succeed?: Unconventional Strategies for Achieving Personal Mastery in Business and Life by Srikumar S. Rao — for Type A people living in a post-industrial society

Orbiting the Giant Hairball: A Corporate Fool’s Guide to Surviving with Grace by Gordon MacKenzie — for creative freelancers (and those who hire them)

The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron — to reignite your creativity (buy the paperback and use it like a workbook)