Artie CheerleaderLast evening at dinner, a colleague raised a question: "How can I become a better leader?"

The answer, from another colleague: "Who are you? Start with knowing who you are."

The table fell quiet. 

This quickly turned into an assignment for the person who raised the question.

And for me.
What, I suddenly wondered, is my own answer to: "Who am I?"

Here is my answer. It's been brewing for a long time.


If my father had been more daring, embracing freedom to apply his considerable talents… 

…if my dog could have talked…

…and I can…

This is my vision 
for who I can become.

People — family, friends, and clients — report their own awakening and growth, enjoying our collaboration, in which I play with them as:

  • a co-creator — sharing ownership of the process so we can, together and separately, own the outcomes. 
  • a trusted resource — a sharer of vulnerabilities and confidences, often asked, "May I tell you something I've never told anyone, even myself?"
  • a mirror — a tool others use for their self-discovery.
  • eyeglasses cleaner — helping others see more clearly.
  • a writer — leading with words.
  • an unlicensed rabbi serving non-Jews — working to apply an ethical tradition.
  • a role model — not in the other's particular domain, but as a learner and health-oriented, emotionally engaged human.
  • a cheerleader — offering old-fashioned encouragement.


  • a lucky charm — a key (one of many) to others' good fortune.

The experience — this life, as it continues to unfold — will help me evolve into a more complete person, blending the natural and the intellectual within me.

Enough About Me
Who are you? What is your vision for who you can become?